Are you a glass half full or a glass half empty for of person?
For a long time I liked to think of myself as a realist, but in actuality I was a pretty pessimistic person. In Grey’s Anatomy they referred to Cristina and Meredith as the twisted sisters because they were all dark and twisty inside. For some reason this idea stuck with me. I took pride in being dark and twisty inside and having no emotions.
Somewhere along the way however, I realized that I wasn’t a very pleasant person to be around. I spent a lot to time complaining, being judgmental, being negative, and bringing everyone’s mood down. I didn’t want to be that person though. I wanted to be the person that people loved to be around because they’re happy.
I wanted to stop hating myself, to stop picking myself and everyone else apart. I wanted to find joy in the simple things, to smile when I was sad and to laugh through the tears. I wanted to attract positive people and positive things into my life.
How does one go about changing this though? When doom and gloom has just become your way of being? Well, to be honest there are lots of steps to take that all build on each other, but the most important is to recognize that you want to change.
I made a concerted effort to try and find the positive and good in every situation. When I recognized that I was complaining, I would stop and find something positive to say. When I was feeling stressed or upset I took the time to find the silver lining or to find something that I could be grateful for.
Having a positive mindset does not need to be complicated. It is simple a choice. Everyday I wake up and I choose to be happy. Just because I choose to be happy does not mean that every day is a good day. I have horrible days just like everyone else, but when I have these days I choose to do things that can help turn my day around.
I go to a book store and browse through the books, maybe picking out a new one to purchase. I listen to music (I love the song Happy by Nevershoutnever when I’m sad), I go for a run, I read a book, I write, journal, talk to a friend or a family member. Recently I’ve taken to hand writing letters to people I love that live out of state. If I’m upset with someone (usually my significant other) I love to buy them something. This may seem odd, but to me it makes me think about all of the things I love about them. I never buy something just to buy it. I look for something that has meaning to them and to me. Maybe it’s a stone, a plant, flowers, a card, typically just something small, but something to show them that I care and to remind myself to let go of the small things that aren’t worth being upset over.
If you put into practice simple steps, then pretty soon your whole out look on life can change. Recognize when you are being negative and find something positive to say or think, work on positive affirmations and findings things to be grateful for, allow yourself to feel your feelings and try to find the silver linings, lean on your support system, sleep, eat well, and move your body.
life is hard enough as it is, don’t let pessimism bring you down. Let your light shine through.