Recently a friend asked me if I ever felt like I wasn’t in control of my own life.
I stopped and thought for a minute, before saying, No, I haven’t felt like that for a long time.
This reaction made me sit back and think for a moment. For a long time I felt like nothing was in my control. That the universe, God, whatever the greater power that may be, had already written out my life. I spent a lot of time just reacting to everyone and everything that was going on around me. I spent a lot of time being jealous of other people; of their lives, of their bodies, their relationships, and everything else.
Recently I have taken to daily meditation and affirmations. I do not find this practice easy. My mind is busy, it often wanders, thinking about the day ahead, things that stress me out, and whatever other random thoughts that pass through my mind.
Despite this, what I have found is taking this time to myself, focusing as best I can on my breathing and on the present has really helped me find peace with myself. It has helped me to find gratitude for what I have in my life. It has helped me to release the stress, to be open to the day ahead, to be happier with my life, and also helped me to discover the things that are important to me and to the life I want to lead.
I also love to do daily affirmations following my meditation. Sometimes, I sit with my eyes closed and really focus on what I am saying. Other times I stand in front of my mirror look myself in the eyes and confidently say my affirmations. There is so much research out there saying that the things that you say and think are what become your reality. I have found this to be true. When I tell myself I a beautiful, I am happy, I am grateful, I am confident, amongst many other things I really start to believe them and they affect the whole world around me. Conversely, when I think a lot of negative thoughts, I am fat, I’m pathetic, no one likes me, these things also become me and they make me feel even worse about myself. I don’t know about you, but I have no interest in continuing to feel this way.
Since I’ve started a daily practice of meditation and affirmations I’ve noticed that when I venture on to social media I can look at other people’s lives and think wow they have created a beautiful life for themselves. I am happy for them. I’m not going to say that I never look at someones life and think I wish I lived there, had that relationship, or whatever, but I now also know that if I truly do want those things, I can have them. I just have to decide that I want them and then make a plan to start working towards them.
I can honestly say that I have never felt more at peace with myself or in tune with my wants, needs, desires, and feelings than I am now. I can confidently say that this is thanks to a regular meditation and affirmations practice.
When starting an affirmation and meditation practice start of slow. I like to go on Youtube and find guided meditations because I find them a little easier to focus on. When I started I aimed for a 10 minute meditation and 5 minute affirmations. Now I do a 20 minute meditation and 15 minute affirmation every morning before I do anything else. Like with all new habits it can take some time to build up, but I promise you that it will be well worth it. There is nothing but positive benefits to be had with a regular meditation and affirmation practice.